Remember the days when we were courting/dating our husbands? The time we would spend in front of the mirror before he came over, making sure every speck of our hair was put together and that our outfit was just right?
We took such pains because we wanted to please him. His compliments (the seal of his approval) over our appearance were important to us.
Do we still do that? Do we still seek to win the seal of his approval?
Once you said "I Do" and the first baby came, did all thought of dressing nice vanish behind a flurry of spit rags, dirty diapers, and midnight feedings?
Just because modesty is important to us, that gives us no excuse as wives to let ourselves go. I've seen many beautiful, well kept, radiant women who are completely modest. As such, I'm sure they are a joy for their husbands to behold.
Beautiful. Well kept. Radiant. Are these the words your husband would employ in complimenting your appearance today? Or would it go sound more like, "Well, at least she's modest."
Well, that's nice and all, but I'm sure that's not quite as thrilling to your ears than if he were to comment on your appearance by saying, "You look radiant today." Suddenly, you feel like you're courting all over again : )
Shortly after we were married my husband and I went through what we now call our "radical stage" of married life :) We jumped head first with great zeal into every aspect of "Godly Christian Living", at least what we thought it to be. Since then much of our perspective has changed, but our basic principles of modesty, homeschooling, and a close knit family has not. It just looks different now.
At that point in our lives I wore a head covering. Most of them were ones that I sewed myself. It's hard to find a pattern for head coverings (at least it was back then when we didn't have internet). I made myself a head covering that was supposed to look like a snood. All of my hair was pulled up into it. The only problem was that it never looked centered on my head. Some days it would look terribly cock eyed and off center. The pictures taken of me back then are painful to look at now, because I remember my attitude about it was "I'm not supposed to care about such things - how I look and all."
How wrong I was! Even if you wear a cape dress and a head covering out of conviction, there is still a right and a wrong way to present yourself for your husband's pleasure.
When I'm pregnant I always struggle with acne due to hormones. I've really had to remember to stay on top of using my facial products I have. Yes, it does take more time, but it's important!
Every husband wants their wife to dress a certain way, and I'm not here to dictate or give suggestions as to what that might be. But ask yourself, do you try to follow it? Do the desires of your husband determine to any degree the clothes you wear, the jewelery you put on, the amount of makeup that is on your face?
My husband has made quite a few comments since I cut my hair that he likes me better without bangs. Now he wasn't demanding I grow my bangs out, and he even didn't come right out and ask me to grow out my bangs. I prefer to have bangs, but recently just decided that there was no harm in growing out my bangs. I want to give my husband pleasure in how I look. If something as simple as growing out my bangs will give him pleasure, why not do it?
Now by writing this I'm not saying to give up all of your own tastes and preferences. My husband has certain colors he likes to see on me, and I have my own colors I like to wear, so I compromise and have both colors in my wardrobe :)
This coming week, may I invite you to join me in making a conscious effort to look tidy and well kept - even radiant - when our husbands come home? No pajamas on when he walks through the door ladies! If you have an extra five minutes, curl your hair in the morning, or put on that perfume he likes. If your dress needs ironed, make sure you do that before putting it on! It's so easy to slip into survival mode as wives, and forget about our appearance.
I'll do a blog post on Friday to see how everyone did, and even add a linky if you want to blog about how you did and link up!
Labels: An Encouraging Word, Marriage, Motherhood